Don’t Just Look At Your Spouse, See Them!

Hello everyone!

It’s the moment at every wedding ceremony we all long to see, the reaction of the groom when he sees his bride walking towards him for the first time. The expression on his face has all those in attendance with either a smile on their own face or tears in their eyes! 

To witness the groom SEEING his bride is something to behold. 

The response from everyone is a telling sign that we all long to be seen. To be looked at is nice, but to be seen, to be truly seen for who we truly are is something we all desire. And in this case, the bride is being seen for who she is in that moment, a woman walking towards her husband in a transitional way of becoming his wife. 

There’s a story in the bible about a handmaid being cast away and meeting God in the wilderness. It’s in this place God speaks to her and her response is, “I now see the God who sees me.” This moment is a moment which confirms who she is and a confidence comes because she is now seen by Someone who loves her. 

The moment I speak of at the wedding is wonderful, but I write about it only because it can’t be lost or just left at the ceremony. This posture of “seeing” needs to travel with us through life, actually it needs to be the way we operate with those around us, but truly with our spouse. We can become so busy with life and all of its demands that we can just “look” at our spouse and not actually “see” them and this can then affect the way we interact with one another. 

My strong encouragement is to slow down and look at your spouse with seeing eyes. See their beauty, their value, the ways they see the world, their thoughts and expressions. My encouragement is should you hold this posture of heart throughout all your days, you might find it makes your relationship so rich and colourful. 

Don’t just look at your spouse, see them! 

Bye for now…